It’s been a while since I’ve sat with this laptop in my lap, fingers on the keys. As most of you know I took quite a big break from the scene. I stopped posting basically everywhere. Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram etc. It was like I dropped off the face of the earth. Sorry about that. Seriously. I opened my Discord and vanished immediately. Life’s been….different the last few months and I’ve been having a hard time finding myself again.
Okay, I know I talked about this a tiny bit in my blog post about my own personal dynamic, but tonight someone asked an amazing question about labeling yourself as a little in my Discord. I wanted to share it with you.
I call myself a little, but I don’t really have an age or anything for my littlespace… I know i’m not very young, but I might be like older little/younger middle. Is there any “label” or role I can give myself to encompass this so I don’t confuse someone to think i’m a younger child than my littlespace is?
Y’all, I align with this question SO much! I mentioned in my blog post that it’s hard for me to label my little space age sometimes because of the age range and the headspaces I can touch. Like for real. For me? I can be super cutesy toddlery aged where I’m squeaky and happy, but, I’m like an older, more mature toddler? Sometimes I feel like I mix together being a toddler, an older child and a teen all in one.
Sometimes, I wanna be smol and cute and call for my Daddy like a little baby cat, and then other times I’m also mature and creative! I communicate well and slide into a different little space. One day I wanna wear overalls and onesies, and the next I want to wear jeans and boots with heels!
You do not need to explain your little space to anyone.
Sometimes, I just can’t seem to find the label I’m supposed to stick on myself when it comes to being a little. Sometimes, when people as my little age I scrunch up my nose and think, “Well. I’m like a giant five year old?” And I hope that gets it across. But does it? I don’t know. But it’s true. I’m messy and silly, I clap and dance and wiggle like a todder. But, I’m potty trained, and I don’t always use sippy cups but big girls cups. I don’t often like to watch cartoons made for actual toddlers, but the ones for older kids. Like Sailor Moon and such. Not to mention that I’m always thinking about the adult world in my mind. Worrying over things and such.
It is so hard to define my little age. To give myself some kind of label and that’s kind of why I just focus on my pet play side and call myself just a “little baby cat” or something along those lines.
To anyone out there who feels like they can’t put a label on their little space, or who feels pressured to pick an age or headspace: Don’t. You don’t have to have a label. You can have a beautiful swirl of headspaces that make something entirely unique to you! You do not have to be what people think you should be. Being yourself is the most important part and you are not alone.
You do not need to explain your little space to anyone. It is yours, and yours alone. The title “Little” can cover so many people and honestly, being bogged down by a classification can be frustrating. You don’t have to go through that. I promise.
I can’t believe that the time has come to celebrate such a monumental milestone! For one year I’ve been repping my own “brand” for the DDLG/BDSM world, In My Little Space! I can’t believe it! A whole year!!! It caught up to me so fast that I almost missed it! And honestly? This whole thing is a few weeks late, but I’d rather have spent time to get it ready, than to just release everything early!
If you follow me on Instagram, you’ll know that back in February the pair of ears I had purchased in a set from Vuzara, were stolen during my flight back to Florida. (I was visiting Papa before I moved here!) Once they were gone, I was absolutely devastated. I couldn’t venture into my pet space I was so sad. When I got over the devastation I was set on finding a new pair and I knew that they just had to match the blue of the tail I have from them.
But why not just get ears from Vuzara?
Do not get me wrong, I loved my ears from Vuzara, but, I felt that they didn’t fit my head the right way – they were a little big for me. They didn’t fit what I was wanting in ears like I thought they would. But I did love them a lot.
I searched high and low for what felt like eons honestly, and it was probably a good month of being rejected by other shops not having customs or anything I was looking for before it happened. The moment I had been holding my breath for: I found the shop I needed, The Lilac Fox.
Warning: All things in this post are strictly my opinion and of my own experience with this shop. Someone else’s experience may be different. Please do not comment attacking the post, and if you have an issue with the shop that is unresolved, please reach out to the shop yourself!
Good morning everyone! I know that it’s been pretty quiet on my social media lately, especially here on the blog. Most of you have become used to my two times a week blog posting and I am angry with myself because I didn’t stick to that. But, I swear that I have good reasoning! My life has completely changed and I wanted to share that with you guys, because it has inspired this blog post for sure.
In the last few weeks, my life has completely changed. I went from working from home, literally never not in my pj’s, not going anywhere and doing whatever whenever, to getting a job that pays more, that I love more, that I have to leave the house for – and have been working 11 hour days for.
Please save me because it’s killing me.
So something tells me that Father’s Day is coming. It could be the ads. It could be the cards that just recently replaced Mothers Day cards at every store I walk into. It could be the calendar, but hey, who knows. It’s just something that tells me. Just as any little who has a Daddy Dom, I too want a day to celebrate mine! In the past, I have given gifts on Fathers Day, but it has always felt so….weird to me. Like this is a holiday that I also sent my actual FATHER a gift and card. Something about celebrating my Daddy Dom on that day just felt….awkward. Especially, since we all fight so hard to break the association of incest that some people put on our community.
And so, I started thinking about it – thinking a lot. What if we had our own days of the year that were close to each holiday so we could still get cards, but that isn’t on Fathers or Mothers Day?
So today is going to be a post that I think that everybody has kind of been waiting for, especially after I posted the article, How I got into BDSM, and that is about my own Daddy Dom Little Girl dynamic!
Talking about my own Daddy Dom Little Girl dynamic is a challenge in itself. You know, up until this point on the blog, I have really just been making educational content about the lifestyle in general, not really making many posts about my own lifestyle directly. Other than my How I Got into BDSM article, what I write about myself is pretty much just for the purpose of education. Something I hope to change.
Writing this is really hard for me and talking about it even more so frightening because I am literally putting myself into a public eye at this point. For most of us in Daddy Dom Little Girl, we know how negative the vanilla, and even sometimes the BDSM community takes our lifestyle. There are so many negative connotations with the way that we choose to live our dynamics and it’s terrifying to think that somebody who knows me is going to find this post.
But the thing is that I can’t be scared because life is too short. And if someone in my life were to find this and suddenly feel like they couldn’t be in my life anymore I could understand why. I would try to get them to understand, but ultimately if they can’t then so be it. That being said, I don’t feel like this lifestyle will really come as a shock to many people in my life if they ever found this just because of how I have always been.
So yeah I guess the warning for this post is that this is a post about my lifestyle. If you don’t like it, if you don’t agree with it, if you have something nasty that you want to say, please don’t at all. This blog is meant to be educational about Daddy Dom Little Girl, and be a place that people can come to and realize that they are not alone. That every dynamic is different and just because some of us don’t fit the specific molds that others do, that it is still okay. So if you guys want to discuss my lifestyle that’s perfectly fine please leave a comment below, but if you don’t want to discuss and you just want to attack then please just move forward because there are better things that are more productive to do with your time.
So, you’re here to learn the keys and secrets to punishments in DDLG, are you? Well….say no more!
I was going to open up this weeks post with one about non-sexual punishments, but, I realized that putting those out before even talking about punishments in the first place? No bueno. No bueno at all. So, that’s what we’re going to talk about today. The secrets to using punishment in DDLG, and honestly any BDSM relationship! I know you’re here to hear the secrets, those whispers on the walls bouncing around and I am very excited to share my input with you guys!
Warning: As usual, I have a disclaimer. The words you’re about to read are based off of my experiences and knowledge from research. I understand what I suggest may not work for everyone, but that it may. Please, if you’re going to comment, discuss, don’t argue! Share your experiences and wisdom, but don’t put down others for different or lacking thoughts.
I can’t believe I’m actually writing this post right now! I have been working so absolutely hard on this project, and I just… ack! Breathe Kitty, breathe! I am genuinely shaking right now, so anxious to tell you guys about this and just sooo nervous! I have been working really incredibly hard on this, trying to keep it a secret and then time it properly and the time is finally here. I am ready to announce…. The Little Space Podcast!
It’s happening!!! I literally am bouncing in my chair because I have three episodes ready to go and a schedule for you guys. I am getting everything completely set up so that we’ll have multiple places for you guys to listen to the podcast at!
So, what’s the podcast going to be about, Kitty?
I’m glad you asked, friends! The Little Space Podcast is going to be something that goes hand in hand with the blog. I will be discussing a lot of the posts I make, going over things I won’t even make posts about (Hint hint awesome secret content maybe?) and hopefully using it to tackle some awesome interviews of people in the community! (I do have a few people in miiiiind!)
A schedule? When?! Where!? How?!
That’s right, I have made a schedule already! The Little Space podcast will be bi-monthly, on Wednesdays!
The first podcast episode of The Little Space Podcast will be available on May 8, 2019 – so this coming Wednesday! It will first be available on my Anchor page, and soon after that, I’ll be releasing it to the following platforms – which will become hyperlinks as they are available!
If anyone wants to see the podcast elsewhere, please reach out to me!
So yeah, the episodes are usually between 30-45 min long, been trying to stay around 45 min. But um, yeah! Haha, I am really excited to bring this to you guys, and I’m really hoping that I can keep up with this. I’m anxious as hell about it but hey, we’ll see where this goes. ((BRING ON THE HEAVY ANXIETY! WEEEE!))
Hopefully, you guys are just as excited about The Little Space Podcast as I am! I really appreciate the time you took to read this announcement and would love for you to follow me on social media to keep up to date! Also, don’t forget to subscribe to the blog! Also, I have a 100 subgoal for YouTube to get a custom URL so uh yeah, that would be absolutely lovely!
Well hello there! I know what you’re thinking just by reading, “How I Got Into BDSM”. You’re thinking, ‘Gosh, Kitten, could you have written this post any later?’ The answer my dear friend is yes. Probably. I am a huge procrastinator. Seriously. You know that phrase, “Procrastinators unite…tomorrow?” Yeah, no, I’m more like next week, or even next month. Whenever in the future. Sometime. Whenever it’s best for you.
Regardless, I think we all know why we’re here. It is the moment some of you have been waiting for and that is to read about how I got into this crazy amazing world of BDSM in the first place. I’m also going to follow this post up with another in the future, about my own personal lifestyle and what DDLG means to me.
C’est la vie? C’est la vie.
Warning: This post is about my lifestyle. My life is my own, and I understand that how I run my life may not be the way you run yours. Your Daddies, Masters, Owners, etc. may treat you differently, let things I do fly or not. Please understand that your dynamic is not “the way” for everyone. If you disagree? Awesome! Let’s talk and conversate, but do not attack. Thank you!