I can’t believe I am writing this post, but it is so rampant in the community right now that I feel like it has to be addressed. I am a part of a few DDLG groups where the number of posts about being “ripped out of little space” by seeing adult content is just…growing. These are posts created in 18+ NSFW DDLG groups. We need to talk about this.
Warning: This post is just about my opinions and they may come off strongly. I know that not everyone will agree with me, and that’s okay. However, let’s try to stay respectful of one another! If you comment please try to discuss, not attack!
So I am going to start by just saying the point of this article:
There is no such thing as a safe space on the Internet.
Not for anyone. Whether that means that simple topics trigger an unhappy response, not safe for work images or text makes you feel so uncomfortable that it pulls it out of little space, or you come into contact with people who have radically different ideas than you do; the Internet is not a safe space – period.
One of the biggest reasons for this is that the tone of someone’s voice usually never fully is able to across the way the writer intended it to, through text. That means that you may make a comment and somebody disagrees and they disagree in a way that when you read it, you take it very offensively. This leads to arguments on Internet forums, blocking and ignoring and starting drama over something that you may have honestly just misunderstood.
There is a certain amount of responsibility that we each carry with us when we use the Internet. Now, nobody is perfect and a lot of times even I myself forget these things and react. It is just human nature, but it is also human nature to try to do better.
When it comes to using the Internet you have to use your brain. You need to read the rules/about pages of DDLG groups that you’re joining and see what kind of content they allow. It’s safe to say that if you join an 18+ DDLG group that says that it is not safe for work, that you should assume that you are going to see very adult content. While it may not be the main focus of the DDLG group, it is probably allowed. This is especially the case with groups that allow other people to share their own personal images where they may be naked but covering up parts of their body or memes that have very provocative language.
This is where your responsibility comes into play. If you know that when you are in little space and seeing those types of images and posts are going to pull you out of little space, then you need to stop going to the places that have the potential to do that.
The Internet again is not a safe space and you always have the potential to run into the type of content that pulls you out of little space.
Whether it’s on Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, Tumblr or any other social media, these are all places where not safe for work content run rampant. You could be following the safest for work, pastel-colored, responsible social media enthusiast and easily click on someone else’s username that may have commented something that you agree with or like and get taken to a different place that has the content you’re trying to avoid completely.
I am a firm believer that if things on the Internet pull you right out of little space, then you shouldn’t be on the Internet when you’re in that headspace, to begin with. I know that sounds callous and maybe a little harsh but it is the truth. If you do not want to run the risk of seeing content that may take you right out of that headspace then you need to stay away from the thing that does that to you in the first place.
There are plenty of other things that you could be doing in little space that won’t take you out. For example, Netflix and Hulu have a just for kids area that you can use! This enables you to be able to watch shows without having to worry about running into something gory or violent. You can play certain video games like Adventure Time or Overcooked, there are also games like Animal Crossing, Minecraft and a variety of mobile games. When I am not in little space I like to create a folder on my android phone and fill it with all kinds of “little” applications and games that I could use while in little space. This creates a one-stop click for me to jump right into my games! Other things you can do is you can color, go outside to the park and play, dress up and more.
It’s time that we start taking responsibility as the adults that we are and start setting boundaries for ourselves in that headspace. It’s also important that our caregivers know about these boundaries and reactions because they can also help monitor what we’re doing. There are things like Microsoft family which disables screen time on certain websites at certain periods of time, and parental apps that block certain applications from being used as well on the phone. There are so many ways to go about making sure that you’re using the Internet responsibly when you are in such a fragile state of mind.
If you’re somebody who gets pulled out of little space by seeing adult content, how do you help prevent that from happening for yourself? Comment down below let me know your thoughts!
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